Everyone when they start reaching these years in their life starts to wonder when they can stop being single and when they can stop dating the wrong people. There is no solid answer to this question however, I can give you advice.
These days in our lives are not meant for wasting so we don’t want to waste time with Mr. or Miss Wrong when “The One” could be right around the corner. These days are the days for finding the special one you could see yourself spending years or even the rest of your life with. These are the days when you find your soulmate. So, why is it so hard? That, I also don’t definitively know. It might be because we make it so hard. People are too finicky about who they date, and dating typically means something different than it should. I also believe you can find your soulmate in the most random places. Now, let me give you the best advice I can muster up.
1. Dating is meant for multiple people. You do not have to reserve dating for a significant other, if you are single or still looking, then go on dates with multiple people to find out who and what type of person you like. You can often be misled by solely looks or certain aspects of a person, but honestly, you might find your soulmate in someone you would have never expected. So keep dating around, that is what college is meant for, and this way you get to sample a larger portion of the goods.
2. Don’t be afraid to consider your best friends. To be honest, the person you want to marry will be someone you can be best friends for life with. That is one way you know it will work out, if you can be both best friends and significant others. More often than not, people will be afraid of losing the friendship or ruining it by trying to date, but if you are truly best friends, then you should be able to accept that it didn’t work out and mend the friendship. However, be careful in considering your best friends, because you need to evaluate if it would even work based on your personalities before you offer up the option. If you are not as close as you think you are, then talks of ‘crushes’ could actually mess things up, but do not let that deter you.
3. Do not be hung up on looks. Frankly, for me, personality is way more important. I believe not in love at first sight (shallowness), but the growth of soul mates, which is a deeper connection than just a physical attraction. If you truly love a person, then the looks will truly not matter to you.
4. Do not rush things. This relationship is going to take time to develop, and if you rush things, it could be ruined. Perfect relationships need time to develop or else they are not perfect. You need to take time to learn the ins and outs of the person, learn how to be with them and what makes them tick. Being in a relationship isn’t easy, but it could be once you take time to learn the other person.
5. Do not look for the relationship. The relationship will come to you if you just remain open to that possibility. Take time to live life, be happy, learn things, find yourself, and learn to love yourself. You can’t truly love another person until you can learn to love yourself. Loving yourself can be the hardest thing to do, so once you have mastered that, it will be a piece of cake to love someone else. Most of the time, the relationship will just come to you if you go with the flow of life and follow your heart. Don’t get me wrong, you will need to put effort in to getting in a relationship, just don’t try too hard.
6. Truly be yourself. You won’t find your true love by getting them to fall for someone that you aren’t. If you do, then later in life, once you get comfortable, they will find that they don’t know you anymore, which can lead to the end of a relationship. Be real with the person, and they will be real with you.
I hope that this has offered some help in teaching you how to find “The One” in college. Don’t be dismayed though if you don’t find them while you are in college; sometimes waiting will show you who you would have missed out on. I believe that there is a soulmate for everyone, and I believe that if you do things right, you will find them.